In recent years, the pros and cons of allowing individual students to express a personal identity in school has taken centre stage. The fact that more and more students identify as a different gender, sexual orientation, or Harry Potter follower (I joke!) than in earlier times, however, poses a question: how much personal expression is too much for a school environment? We recently discussed, on Pam and The Purple Couch, the nuances of the topic, by looking at the possible consequences that allowing expressions of self in school may have. 

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Defining Personal Expression 

Expressing one’s personality entails a variety of behaviours and identities. It may include the way people talk, dress, or interact with others. At school, children express themselves in different ways. They not only dress differently, but also show their support for different cultural or social movements. 

As identity-driven movements increase in popularity, schools are pushed to accept a broader range of expression. At the same time, this has raised the question of how far expression can go without interfering with educational life. 

The Impact of Current Events 

Following the local election in Florida with the campaign advertisements seeking to prohibit identifying as a furry in the classroom, and in the ongoing political climate where these expressions are viewed as threats to child development, schools are confronted with rising calls for increasing restrictions on personal expression during the school day. What kind of effect would this have on students? 

The effects of such policies can be far-reaching. They might impact the students who identify with those expressions, but they could also impact others trying to figure out where they fit in a complicated social environment. 

Personal Stories and Experiences 

Bringing in personal experiences helps to give substance to the idea that certain students and their parents are going through things that other students’ parents haven’t encountered, and that such cases are not as rare or isolated as they might at first seem. I still recall a conversation I had with a hairdresser about why her grandson was finding it hard to concentrate on schoolwork. It turned out that the trouble stemmed from the regular presence of a classmate who identifies as a cat. I find this a powerful image for at least one of the areas of disruption that can be generated by some forms of extreme mental projection. 

Such narratives reveal the frictions that can arise between promoting personal expression and creating an environment conducive to learning. Educators and parents have the challenge of finding the sweet spot that respects individual idiosyncrasies while allowing all children to feel enabled to learn. 

The Role of Educators 

Our schools require educators to mediate the simultaneous need to foster a caring environment that encourages personal expression and a need to create order and focus for teaching and learning. This can be especially hard to manage when students express themselves in ways that are disruptive. 

For example, whether students should be able to engage in sexual lewdness through costumes in a school context asks us to consider what types of personal expression belong in the classroom. Personal expression is incredibly important and educators must take this into consideration when evaluating these behaviours. 

Setting Boundaries 

Setting boundaries for self-expression in schools is necessary. These boundaries need to be informed by students’ individual needs and the group’s needs. Schools need to develop policies to support different students’ personal identities as well as to create a learning environment. 

Disruptive behaviours, such as those of students who consider themselves furries or other creative expressions, must be handled. And while it might seem easier to ban all costumes or allow them all, formulating a response to disruptive behaviours that strikes an appropriate balance between free expression and effective school management is a thorny problem. 

Support for Families 

These pressures don’t just exist for students; they are experienced by parents as well. Often, a student’s family experiences worry and crisis as they try to come to terms with how the school responds to their student’s identity. Relieving some of that stress is part of what a more supportive school environment looks like. 

Schools are in a position to provide parents with resources and advice on what their child might be experiencing and how to support them. This can help to reduce the stress and confusion that the child and parents can feel. 

Conclusion: Finding a Middle Ground 

As a society, we need to think more deeply about issues of personal expression in schools – to reach a kind of middle ground between unwavering respect for variances and a requirement that all children be able to learn. Dialogue among teachers, students and families can lead to more inclusive policies and practices, respecting diverse identity. 

Ideally, our school culture would be one where students of all genders are supported and safe to express themselves, but where no one’s classroom experience is compromised. This can happen if all of us work together. 

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